Wardie,
We met at the Fall Colors event on Friday night. You wanted to join our riding group on Saturday and I turned you down. I sensed you were offended. It was not my intention to be stand-offish or to exclude you, per se.
I attend lots of rallies and have a regular group of friends who I lead rides for. Not all of them attend every rally, but most of them were there for this one. The more riders in the group, the harder it becomes to keep track of people, pass slower traffic, stay together going through towns, etc. And that's with regulars who know how everyone else in the group rides and know my picky little riding rules.
I already had five other people in my group for Saturday. The larger the group, the more stressful it is for me. Adding two additional riders, both new to the group, was more than I was able to do. You asked if you could "shadow" us. I am frequently asked that question, and my experience is that in practice, it's just more riders on the back end of the group. I hope you understand. In any case it turned out to be a moot point, since it rained Saturday and we didn't ride. (The only rally day of this season I left my bike parked all day.)
There are a few events I attend each season where my regular group doesn't attend. I'm happy to ride with new people and new members at those events.
Norm Kern